Wednesday, December 11, 2019

Pay it Forward- Nicole

This is Nicole.


"Nicole is an amazing single, veteran, mother to four awesome children. She has been fighting a very rare and aggressive cancer – Small Cell Neuroendocrine Carcinoma of the Cervix for the past 4 years. She has endured over 50 rounds of chemo, had over 25 hospital stays, numerous surgeries, infections, 28 rounds of radiation and a failed clinical trial. Unfortunately, her body is starting to fail and she's running out of options. 
Her tumors have continued to grow and her doctors advise her to go on hospice. 
 Because her disease is so rare and aggressive, she has traveled to MD Anderson in Houston every 9 weeks to one of the few experts in the world on this rare cancer for the past 4 years. 
The costs of travel, medication, treatment, her recent divorce due to her husband leaving due to cancer diagnosis/stress and her oldest going to college have added much financial stress on top of the extreme physical and emotional burden she is carrying. 
 I would love to see her and her family have a wonderful Christmas. 
It would be so nice to make this Christmas a little easier for this well-deserving mom and her kids. Her children are 7-year-old twins, 12-year old daughter and 19-year old in college."

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Location: Ann Arbor, MI

How you can help:

You can purchase items directly from Nicole's wishlist for her kids and herself to make their Christmas a little better this year.

*Once all items are purchased the list will be empty.

Thank you for Paying it Forward.

Tuesday, December 10, 2019

Pay it Forward- Stephanie, the Fighter

This is Stephanie and her family.


"I share this every year and I don't know that I will ever stop sharing it. Because, here's the thing, I wish I saw a story like mine when cancer came barreling through my life. I wish there was someone years ahead of me on this same road. Someone thriving. Someone surviving. Someone beating the odds and truly living life after a horrific diagnosis. I wish I could see that doctors could be wrong, that statistics didn't matter, and that hope could be healing. 
I was diagnosed on January 25th, 2012, only 19 days after my 25th birthday. 
Stage 3, high grade metastatic Large cell Neuroendocrine cervical cancer-the rarest of the rare and extremely aggressive. 
I was given less than a 20% chance to survive that first year. I'll never forget my oncologist crying as she shared the news. My medical team wasn't sure which route to take and suggested we try anything. If it didn't work, we'd move on to the next option. 
A week after receiving my diagnosis, I underwent a radical hysterectomy, deeming me infertile.
The following week my port was placed, and days later I began chemotherapy. Ecternal radiation was added; My body bombarded with toxic cocktails. 

I would do anything to survive. 

Soon I was cancer-free, but within three months a softball sized tumor had grown. From no evidence of disease, to a softball sized mass. My first of three subsequent recurrences. My chances of survival sank lower and lower.
More surgeries. More chemo. More hospital visits. More blood transfusions. More emergency room stays. More pain. More grief. More trauma. More fear. I thought it would never end. 
But it did! 
4 fights against cancer. 4 surgeries, 55 chemotherapies, 28 radiation treatments and I SURVIVED!

I was cancer free for almost 4 years when this last recurrence (my 5th time fighting cancer) happened. It was a devastating shock.
When I was first diagnosed, my husband and I had a large savings and we had to completely drain it to pay for all of the expensive treatments. We still haven’t been able to build a savings back up because 5 times through cancer is extremely expensive.
I’ve had a total of 5 major surgeries, 73 chemotherapy treatments, 28 radiations, countless ER visits and hospital stays.
I finished chemo the day before Thanksgiving and my next scan will be on Dec 18th. 
I meet with my doc on the 19th to find out if this treatment worked. 😅😅😅"

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I have followed Stephanie on Instagram for years and one thing I absolutely LOVE about her is her outlook on life. 
She, despite fighting cancer FIVE times now, at such a young age, is so incredibly optimistic! 
She can truly teach us all that no matter what tough things you are going through, you can always find hope and positivity in life. 
In July 2018 Stephanie and her husband Matt adopted a sweet baby boy, Breck. 
Stephanie, Matt & Breck need your prayers. 
They need prayers for clear scans. That Stephanie will be cancer free again and for a long, happy life.

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How you can help:

Stephanie and Matt are in need of monetary donations. 
ANY AMOUNT WILL HELP!

You can Venmo Stephanie at @smadsen
All monetary donations will go to medical bills and general living expenses. 

Breck, their 1 year old son is also wanting a Kidkraft Kitchenette for Christmas.
If you are wanting to donate one, you can Venmo Stephanie with the title "Breck kitchen"
and those funds will be allocated toward purchasing for him for Christmas. 


You can follow Stephanie's story on her Instagram at @derailingmydiagnosis.
Thank you for Paying it Forward.


Monday, December 9, 2019

Pay it Forward- Bethany


This is Bethany and her girls.



"I am nominating one of my employees, Bethany. She is an amazing single mom and struggles to make ends meet. She doesn’t have family and lost her mom to breast cancer. With Christmas close, I would love to be able to bless her with presents for her children. She has 2 girls that she works so hard to provide for. She spends her days working for me as a preschool teacher (which doesn’t pay much) and her free time making sure the girls play sports and cheer... she is constantly fundraising for her girls so they can play and participate in the things they love. She is an amazing person and mother and she deserves to not have to struggle for one Christmas! It breaks my heart to see such a selfless person go through so much. She could really use a blessing!"


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Location: Irving, TX

How you can help:
Bethany could use some help with basic necessities for her and her girls.
Pots, pans, underwear, socks, and shoes for her girls as well as gift cards and some gifts to go under the Christmas tree.
You can purchase gifts directly from Bethany's Wish List and they will be sent directly to her.
*Once the wishlist has been fulfilled the list will be empty.

Thank you for Paying it Forward. 

Friday, December 6, 2019

Pay it Forward- Naomi



This is Naomi's family





"This year my dear best friend lost her fiance and father of their 3 children, and her middle child in an accident. In September Maurance Sr. had the 2 youngest babies, Nena (6) and Maurance JR, (4). 
He was being the fun, silly Dad as always and he lost control of his truck and it went into a pond. 
Maurance was able to bring their 4 yr old up to land and went back for Nena.....neither of them surfaced. 

Naomi and their oldest were at volleyball practice and didn't find out for hours what had happened and that she lost them. They didnt have life insurance. I cant imagine being in Naomi’s shoes, nobody can.  
Jr, their 4 yr old son doesn’t understand where Daddy and sissy are.  
Ariana, their 12 year old daughter has always been more mature for her age but has really had to grow up quick these last few months.  
My heart breaks when I see her, she has been so strong for her mom. Naomi doesn't make much and provides the best she can for the babies, but her house needs work. Some of the floors in the house aren’t finished, she needs drywall work done where Jr let a sink over flow, a few interior doors need replaced, but Naomi never complains.  
She doesnt ask for anything, she always finds a way. I have asked her a few times what is needed and she always says nothing. Of course this holiday is going to be excruciating for her, especially when Nena should have turned 7 on Dec 10. I only wish I could take some pain from her. I thought I could try and take some weight off her shoulders by nominating her for PiF 2019."

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Let's help make Naomi and her kids' Christmas a little better this year.


LOCATION: Fairfield, Ohio

How you can help:

Naomi needs things in her house fixed, as well as gifts for her 2 children, Jr. and Ariana.
You can purchase gift cards to Lowe's and Home Depot and gifts from their 

*Once the wishlist items are fulfilled, the list will be empty.

Maybe a handyman that can come donate some time and materials to fix some things around their home?

Please send any resources to JBHolidayPIF@gmail.com

Thank you for Paying it Forward.

Thursday, December 5, 2019

Pay it Forward - Tara

This is Tara & her 4 kids

"Tara is a single mom to her 4 children, JD- 7, Kayda- 5 (6 soon), Danielle- 4 and Dylan- 2. She homeschools the 3 older kids because of her oldest having severe autism, and her self having a seizure disorder that keeps her from being able to drive. She is one of the best moms I know, she does everything she can for her children. Life hasn’t been easy for her and her kids. About 3 years ago she finally got away from her toxic relationship with her kids father. All of the 3 oldest have been through more than any child should go through. The tipping point was when he abused her oldest son, and she finally left. She has to support her kids off of social security income and food stamps due to her not being able to work because of her seizures. Our family definitely helps her where and when we can. Every year we help make sure they all get items for Christmas, because otherwise they wouldn’t have anything. But this year I want to nominate her and her kids because they have a major need for beds and bedding more than anything. 
They have mattresses but they are falling apart and very stained and old. She makes sure every month that she gets everything the kids need and pays her bills for her apartment. She buys bus tickets to get to and from all of the Dr. appointments she has to go to every month. Most months she has very little left over. I want her to have joy again and to not have to stress over this holiday season!" ************************************************************************************

How you can help:

Here is Tara's Amazon wish list. You can purchase items directly from her list and it will be sent directly to her. 

*Once all items are purchased on her list, the list will be empty.

Let's help Tara and her kids have a great Christmas this year!

Thank you for Paying it Forward. 

Friday, April 5, 2019

Swipe Up Round Up 4/5/19

It's Friday and it's time for the swipe up links  I've been sharing all week (and a weekly update!) in case you missed them!

This is so cute that I bought it in black, too! It's super flattering and perfect for Spring and Summer.
$24 // True to Size (I'm in a medium)
shorts (6) // bag // sandals 



I took my NexGen (dip powder) nails off recently and have been wearing this polish. It is a two step gel process where you don't have to cure it under a light. You just paint your color, and then the top coat and your gel nails are all set! 
It lasts me about 5 days before it starts chipping.



I have these in leopard and they are THE MOST comfortable wedges I've ever owned.
I took a mile walk in them around the neighborhood (unexpectedly, of course) with Mushy a few weeks ago and they didn't hurt my feet AT ALL!
Highly recommend them.
$79.95 // True to Size


So many of y'all have asked about this dainty necklace and I couldn't remember for the life of me where I got it! I had a follower of mine reach out and tell me she found it, so THANK YOU NIKKI!
$17


Super cute and great quality! 
I got size 30-35" waist.
$13
t-shirt (M) // jeans (8) // sweater (Stitch Fix, but here's a similar one) // glasses // shoes
earrings (code Brandi15 saves you $$)

This is the eyeshadow I have been wearing all week and they're my new favorite colors!!!
So pretty!


I also did an Amazon try on for y'all with some pieces I snagged that were all under $25!

Outfit 1: dress $20 (M) // shoes
Outfit 2: dress $23 (M) // shoes // jacket is Stitch Fix, but here's a similar one
Outfit 3: dress $18 (M) // shoes // cardigan
Outfit 4: sleeveless shirt $15 (M) // shorts (6) // shoes // necklace // bracelets
Outfit 5: top $18 (M) // shorts (8) // shoes // bracelets // bralette
Outfit 6: dress $22 (M) // shoes // necklace


And Travis got his first Stitch Fix box!
He kept 5 out of 5 pieces (because it was cheaper to keep all than to send one back that wasn't his style).
Here's his pieces!

You can get $25 off your first Stitch Fix box HERE.


I have made 2 out of 3 of our Hello Fresh meals this week. I usually make them on Monday, Wednesday and Friday nights since that's when Travis is home early.
We are on the Vegetarian Plan (no, Travis is not a vegetarian and I'm not claiming to be, but I have switch to a plant based diet and have cut out all animal protein from my diet).
On the menu for this week was:
Asparagus Risotto (AMAZING!)
Truffled Mushroom Flatbreads (AMAZING!)
Pasta Parmesan (cooking tonight)


Honestly, every meal we've had so far has been so good!
They are simple recipes and take about 30 minutes to make!
I highly recommend checking it out!
Get $40 off your first Hello Fresh box HERE.

And last but not least.... Trace got his first haircut and I'm dying over the cuteness!





I mean, my ovaries are bursting. 
*swoon*😍

Have a great weekend!

xo,
B

Friday, March 29, 2019

Swipe Up Round Up

Hey guys!
I realized that a lot of the times I post stuff on Instagram that you miss the links in my stories since they disappear after 24 hours. 
So I thought I'd start putting together a post every Friday called Swipe Up Round Up where I link back to everything over the past week.

So here are the links from this week in case you missed them!

This is my favorite self tanner currently. It smells like marshmallow when you put it on! 
I have found the best way to do self tanner is to shower in the morning, dry off, and then apply your self tanner. Wear it throughout the day, being careful not to transfer to your clothes (it would be best to plan out a day when you'd be wearing dark colors just in case it transfers to your clothes before it's dry) and then to wash it off at night with Dove soap.
This way you don't sleep in it and it doesn't stink!

Charlotte Tilbury Flawless Filter

This is the foundation I've been using lately. It is medium coverage and has such a beautiful, dewy glow. 


This is SO COMFY! Fits true to size (I'm in a medium).


This stuff smells so good! It's a good, clean, light scent. 

Bracelet stack is from Broken Gypsy bracelets. It's where I get all my stacks from!
I did take off my Nexgen nails. I kept breaking them getting Trace in and out of the carseat, so I decided to just take them off and stick with Color Street nails for now. 


I use this in the summer when wearing shorts a lot or showing more skin. It immediately gives your skin a blurred, bronze look and helps reduce the appearance of cellulite! I love using it on the backs of my legs and my arms!

This is what I use to curl my hair! It is AMAZING! It's currently on sale for $160, normally $190 and you can get 10% off additional with code Tyme10 making it $144. 


It comes in over 20 colors and is super flattering! True to size (I'm in a medium).


The BEST dry shampoo EVER. I use it every day, even on clean hair!



Hope that helps!

Talk soon,
B


Thursday, March 21, 2019

It's Baseball Season with Walmart

It's baseball season, y'all!
If you know me, you know I LOVE baseball season. I grew up playing competitive softball and when Big T took a liking to baseball a few years ago, my mama heart was SO HAPPY!

I'm sharing my go-to baseball look with y'all today, and you'll never guess where it's all from...
Yep. They have been stepping up their game lately and have so many cute fashion finds!
Their Time and Tru label has to be one of my favorites as well as their EV1 brand from Ellen Degeneres, as seen here (top)!

My entire look is from Walmart and all under $50 (for the WHOLE outfit!)



The tee is super soft and the perfect lightweight material for those Texas days at the ballfields!
I'm in a size medium.
The white lace pocket denim shorts are super cute dressed up or down.
I'm in a juniors size 9 (size up).

I've partnered with Walmart for their We Dress America campaign and I have been so impressed with the huge selection of purses, shoes, and clothes at such good prices!

Here are a few of my other favorites:




If you haven't checked out Walmart fashion in awhile, I highly recommend doing so now!
You can get free 2 day shipping on all orders of $35 or more!
$35 can go a long way at Walmart! :)

This post is sponsored by Walmart. All selections and opinions are my own.

Friday, January 25, 2019

Trace Updates

This is so weird, sitting in the PICU writing while Trace is sleeping.
Weird in a sense that I've been here before.

I have. On Christmas Day in 2011 Mushy (now 7 years old) was rushed to the hospital in an ambulance after he had stopped breathing due to RSV. He was 6 weeks old.
He stayed one night in the PICU and one night on a regular floor and we got to go home.
Left- Mushy 2011
Right- Trace 2019

I think because I've been through this whole RSV business that I feel a sense of calmness.
Though Trace's seems to be much worse than Mushy's.

On Monday evening (after having been to the dr that morning for his 9 month checkup and was fine, other than an ear infection the dr. found), Trace began running a fever and couldn't keep any food down.

Tuesday he seemed to improve a little, but wasn't his normal self. He slept a lot and was fussy.
If you follow my Instagram, you know he is literally the happiest baby EVER, so this was not normal.

Wednesday he slept a lot, and his fever spiked back up to 102.7 by 2pm. I called the dr. back and she told us to come in and have him checked out.
He looked pitiful. His eyes were red and he was so fussy and tired. He just wanted to lay on me.
The dr. tested him for the flu, which was negative, and we did a breathing treatment.
at the pediatrician doing a breathing treatment

He was still struggling to breathe and our pediatrician didn't feel comfortable sending him home with us so she sent us to the ER.

At this point, Travis was at home with the boys and I told him before we left for the pediatrician's office that I had a feeling she was going to send us to the hospital. I just know our pediatrician, and knew there was something wrong. So I had told him I'd call my parents if that happened and that he could drop the boys off with them.

On the way to the ER (it was 5:30pm rush hour at this point), I called Travis, told him to pack bags for the boys, drop them at my parents house and then head up to the hospital.

We got checked in and it was pretty apparent from the beginning that they were going to admit him.
They tested him for RSV and hooked him up to oxygen pretty much immediately.
His oxygen levels were about 80 (they need to be at 100) and being low, they put him on high flow oxygen, which is humidified oxygen, to help break up all the mucous.

Travis got to the ER and we waited as he got his IV for fluids, since he hadn't had a full meal he'd kept down in a few days and dehydration was a concern.
Trace hated his oxygen mask. He kept trying to spit it out. It was sad.
in the ER with daddy

They took an X-ray of his chest to check for pneumonia and put us in a room in the PICU.
RSV test came back positive and his X-ray did show pneumonia.
So he is on antibiotics for that.
He is on breathing treatments with albuterol every 3 hours and respiratory therapy as well.
This is where they come in, hook his oxygen mask up to albuterol, which is a bronchodilator and helps dilate his airways, and beat on his chest and back with a special tool to help break up the mucous.

RSV in adults acts as the common cold, but since babies airways are smaller than the size of your pinky, such congestion presents a big problem as they can't clear their throat or help move that mucous out, thus the reason for hospitalization and help with respiratory therapy, antibiotics for the pneumonia and oxygen, etc.

He had to have a feeding tube placed on Thursday because with the high flow oxygen he can't breathe through his nose well enough to take a bottle.
Let me tell you, watching your child (completely awake and not sedated) get a feeding tube run through is nose down to his belly was probably the hardest thing I've had to watch. Almost as bad as the time Big T had to be put in a straight jacket and had a catheter placed when he was about Trace's age. Not fun.

he plays for about 15 minutes and then sleeps for hours
As of about an hour  ago Trace's IV fluids have been stopped, as he's getting nutrition through his feeding tube now.

after his feeding tube was placed

There hasn't been much change the past 2 days. Trace is still on high flow oxygen and still has quite a bit of congestion. He's had to have his oxygen turned up twice now because he's still struggling to breathe.

He also had a repeat lung X-ray to see if the pneumonia has gotten worse. We're waiting on results from that.

Yesterday I was able to go home and see the big boys for a bit after school and take a shower and wash my hair.
Let me tell you, after 9 days of not washing it and everything the past few days, I've never wanted to rip my extensions out more than yesterday.
I love the look of them, but it's hard to get a good wash and I definitely can't get a head massage with them in, and that's all I wanted yesterday. I'm thinking I'll take them out next time they grow out and wait until my hair is a bit longer and I'll only need one row for length.
It's just so much damn hair.

Totally unrelated to Trace, sorry.

But after my shower yesterday I laid down in my bed with the puppies while Travis was at the hospital with Trace and I took a 2 hour nap. It felt so good to sleep in my bed. I've been sleeping in the hospital chair bed and I don't know what it is about hospital beds but they all make my hips hurt. I felt the same thing in the hospital bed after I had Trace. So weird.

Today my mom is bringing the boys up to the hospital so she can come visit Trace.
Because they are under 13, they are not allowed in the PICU, but there is a cool little area in the lobby they'll like and at least I'll get to see them a bit.

It's looking like we'll be here for awhile, unfortunately, but I have faith in the nurses and doctors that he is in good hands.

Thank you all for your kind words, comments, offers to help, etc.
They are truly appreciated.



Wednesday, December 19, 2018

Pay it Forward- Jen T.

This is Jen's story.


Location: Olmstead, OH

"My name is Brittany and this is the short story of Jen, an employee of mine.

Jen is a 42 year old single mother of 5. 

3 of her children and 2 of their significant others live with her in her 2 bedroom apartment. She is a giver, a nurturer, and has the kindest heart. She doesn’t say no. She met a guy, fell in love and and quickly found herself supporting him as well. After she helped him financially and put herself out for her children and this man, he left her. 
High and dry. With nothing left but a broken heart. 
Her apartment wasn’t in good living conditions so she and her family moved to another 2 bedroom apartment in Lorain, Ohio, near Cleveland. 
It’s in a bad area and her safety is a huge concern of mine. 
She has hardly any furniture. 
It’s cold and doesn’t feel like a home. But it’s home to Jen.
She comes to work often with a grocery bag with a fork and some kind of canned noodles from the dollar store. I know she can’t afford much else so I’ll get take out for her and I, knowing she she isn’t able to splurge like that. 

She is always so happy and grateful.

She gets government assistance but it’s not enough because of the house hold size she’s taking care of. Often times she will work 8 hour days and doesn't eat. Not because she’s not hungry, but because she can’t afford to. 

Before I became her boss, she got moved to a permanent work location that is an additional 30 min to work one way with $1 raise. I’m trying to get that reversed as she’s losing money.
Her clothes are old and worn, as are her children’s. She wears makeup from family dollar that sometimes makes her face breakout but it’s all she can afford. 

I wish she knew, she’s beautiful without it and doesn’t need it at all. Her beauty shines so bright to others, even strangers.
She had an old vehicle and the transmission went out. She was able to scrap that and get a used truck, soon to find out that the alternator was bad. She was taking Lyfts to work (roughly $20 one way) and during a trip to work, she and the Lyft driver were talking about her truck. He offered to lend her a hand. 3 weeks later her truck is working due to the kindness of this strangers heart. 

He went to a local scrap yard called Pull a Part , found her an alternator and installed it for her.
Nov 27th was the first day she was able to have her own transportation to get to and from work. Shortly before her shift was over, she had to leave early because her daughter was in a minor car accident. 

We spoke about how God is so good and put that man in her path to help her get her vehicle up and running so she was able to run and aid to her daughter. 
Shortly after 11 PM, I received a text message from Jen stating that that same daughter being at the wrong place at the wrong time, was shot twice in the neck. 
In less than eight hours she has already had two surgeries trying to remove swelling from the brain. I am so worried for Jen and her daughter, I know she is worrying about work and I have instructed her to let me handle it. That’s just the type of person Jen is. Worrying about everything. Even when attention should be on her and her family.

I want to help her out.. I want to give back. I want others that know or have Jen’s in their life, to recognize the sacrifice of being a single mom struggling with so many children, that just want life to cut them a break."

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WAYS TO HELP:

You can purchase directly from Jen's Wish List for her and her children and items will be shipped to Brittany while Jen is in the hospital with her daughter.

OTHER WAYS TO HELP:

You can send monetary donations HERE.
This will go to basic necessities for Jen and her kids.

If you would like to send a letter of encouragement, please email me at JBHolidayPIF@gmail.com with the subject line JEN1219.

Thank you for paying it forward.


Tuesday, December 18, 2018

Pay it Forward- Marissa's Smile

This is Marissa.


Location: Wichita Falls, TX

"I’m writing in regards to my sister, Marissa. 
She is a mother to 2 boys, ages are 11 and 5. 
She is such a funny person and always brings out the best in those around her. 
However, she made some bad choices in 2008 and began using drugs when she started hanging around with the wrong crowd. 
It wasn’t long before getting back on the right track but the effects of the drugs were long lasting. 
Her teeth were extremely damaged and still are. She has her joy but her smile is gone and it hurts my heart. 
She is so good about putting everyone before herself! I want her to put herself first but she needs some help.

She lost her top teeth to her addiction. 
She cleaned herself up and has remained clean for 5 years, Thank God! 
Even since her sobriety her joy has diminished due to her smile being taken. 
She works so hard as a single mom to support her two boys and always puts herself last. 
She is in desperate need of her remaining teeth to be pulled (6) that are broken and decayed and dentures. 
The total cost is around $1,200 at the local dental clinic. 
I would love to help but as a college senior and a family of my own, I don’t have the extra cash to give her. 
I am reaching out to you for help. 
Please help my sister regain her joy and SMILE."
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I know this story will touch many people who have dealt with, or have a family member who has dealt with addiction.
Let's remember it is not our place to judge others' journey's. 
Marissa has worked hard to provide for her boys and get her life back in order. That in and of itself is amazing and commendable. 

Let's help Marissa get her smile back!

WAYS TO HELP:

You can donate directly to Marissa's dental fund via her PayPal HERE.
These monetary donations will go directly toward the dental work Marissa needs done.

OTHER WAYS TO HELP:

If you are a dentist, or know of resources to help Marissa with her smile, please email me at JBHolidayPIF@gmail.com with the subject line MARISSA1218.

Thank you for paying it forward.